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What do you look for in a friend?
Most of my friends were random encounters or family members. I don’t think I’ve ever actively gone looking. Nevertheless, most of them do have some things in common.
Loyalty: This is a big one for me. I’d be willing to do just about anything for the ones I care about, but I’d like to know they’d do roughly the same for me. Staying loyal to someone is important. I’d never sell out a friend. Ever.
A Good Sense of Humor: No, I’m not one of those dry, emotionless scientists. I love inventing, and I love to have a good time. My friends tend to be the kind of people I can joke around with. And I can tell some terrible jokes, so being able to put up with those is a must.
Shared Interests: The obvious one is a shared interest in science, especially physics and inventing, but that’s not always the case. Two of my closest friends back home shared different things with me. Holly was more interested in trying to study magic than science, but she and I enjoyed the same type of books. And Marty and I both shared an interest in music. If I can talk to you about something that interests me, friendship is very possible. (Addendum: It doesn’t have to initially BE something that interested me. Get me intrigued about part of your life, and things should work out fine. That was the way it was for Holly and me – her focus on magic led to many fascinating arguments and experiments.)
A Shoulder to Cry On: This goes both ways. I’m usually the one comforting others – if you need someone to hold onto, I’ll be there for you. But I like having someone I can pour my heart out to if needed too. That was mostly Emily’s role when I was a kid, and Gladys’s role here in Chicago. Marty I usually protected, but considering he helped me get some of my life back. . . . Be there for me, let me be there for you, and we’ll be fine.
Most of my friends were random encounters or family members. I don’t think I’ve ever actively gone looking. Nevertheless, most of them do have some things in common.
Loyalty: This is a big one for me. I’d be willing to do just about anything for the ones I care about, but I’d like to know they’d do roughly the same for me. Staying loyal to someone is important. I’d never sell out a friend. Ever.
A Good Sense of Humor: No, I’m not one of those dry, emotionless scientists. I love inventing, and I love to have a good time. My friends tend to be the kind of people I can joke around with. And I can tell some terrible jokes, so being able to put up with those is a must.
Shared Interests: The obvious one is a shared interest in science, especially physics and inventing, but that’s not always the case. Two of my closest friends back home shared different things with me. Holly was more interested in trying to study magic than science, but she and I enjoyed the same type of books. And Marty and I both shared an interest in music. If I can talk to you about something that interests me, friendship is very possible. (Addendum: It doesn’t have to initially BE something that interested me. Get me intrigued about part of your life, and things should work out fine. That was the way it was for Holly and me – her focus on magic led to many fascinating arguments and experiments.)
A Shoulder to Cry On: This goes both ways. I’m usually the one comforting others – if you need someone to hold onto, I’ll be there for you. But I like having someone I can pour my heart out to if needed too. That was mostly Emily’s role when I was a kid, and Gladys’s role here in Chicago. Marty I usually protected, but considering he helped me get some of my life back. . . . Be there for me, let me be there for you, and we’ll be fine.
